Our Adoption Journey (up to now)

We've been in the process of adopting a baby girl or boy from South Korea for over a year now. We just got our last approval in the mail on Friday and are thrilled! We started talking about adoption when Jake was 5 months old (he's now almost 2). We loved having him, and knew we wanted another child. I had always wanted to adopt a child since I visited an orphanage in India when I was in college, and Brian was very comfortable with the idea because his sister Becky and her husband Dale adopted their son Clarke. Brian actually traveled with Becky and Dale to pick up Clarke in Guatemala over 6 years ago. Once we made the decision to add to our family via adoption, we started our research and had to decide which country to adopt from and what agency to go through. We considered adopting domestically, but it can get complicated with the rights of the birth mother and all. I then set up a meeting with a social worker my mom told about, and she really recommended going with South Korea because the process is *relatively* quick, the children need good homes, they are usually healthy and good information is given about their parental and medical history, they live in foster homes as opposed to orphanages, and you get them when they are pretty young (9 to 12 months old). We liked her and liked the small agency, which is called Family Adoption Consultants. They are based in Macedonia, Ohio and adopt to families that live in Ohio and Michigan. There are several large adoption agencies that adopt to families all over the country and we looked into those, but liked the feel of the small agency better. So, in July of 2009, Brian and I put in a preliminary application to adopt a child from South Korea. In January of 2010, we received our formal application, a large packet of papers. We spent the next 4 weeks filling out loads of paperwork, going to multiple doctors for both ourselves and Jake, getting fingerprinted, getting letters of recommendations from friends, and writing our personal biographies. Whoever said that the application was detailed was not lying! However, they need to examine every aspect of your life to ensure that the babies they place are going to good homes. We completed the formal application in about a month, and sent the big old packet back to Macedonia. We then got a call from the lady I talked to over the summer, Sandy. She is our social worker, and is very sweet. She came out to the house for the first time, and I remember rushing home from work that day to make sure the house was perfectly clean. She met with us 3 times together, and then also interviewed us individually. Sandy made it painless, and it was just like talking about your life with a friend. Part of the application included a description of the house you live in, and getting it inspected for safety by firemen. Well, right as our home study was being concluded, we decided to put our home in Loveland on the market and see what happened. In April, we had to go to Macedonia for a weekend to have training on how to raise an adopted child. The Wednesday before the training, we formally put the house on the market. That weekend, we had a flurry of activity on the home, and actually got 2 offers on the house. It was crazy because we were in training, and kept on getting texts from our real estate agent about the negotiations on the house. When we left training that Sunday afternoon, we drove back to sign a very good contract on the house. Chaos is how I describe the next few weeks because we had agreed to be out of the house in 2 1/2 weeks. Because we were moving, that put a hold on getting formally approved for the adoption. We ended up moving into my parents house for a lot of the summer, and finally got formally approved in August, when we moved into our new house in Hyde Park. We were very excited, and I could finally tell people at work and make plans to take time off next year when the baby came. We then had to go downtown the Federal building and get fingerprinted for our approval by the Department of Homeland Security (we got that approval on Friday). Now we are officially on the waiting list to receive a baby! It's been a long journey (and will be even longer), but totally worth it in the end. We are told that we will get our referral in February or March. In the referral, we find out whether the baby is a boy or girl, get a picture of the baby, their history, etc. The baby is then flown to Detroit (because we're dealing with a smaller agency, they escort the baby to the US), and we meet him or her at the airport! That should be in late spring or early summer. I will update the blog and take many, many pictures!